Well, hell, there’s one thing and one thing only that I’ve really learned so far on this project, and it’s that I’m a real big fucking idiot.
Since my first day of really spending time on it I’ve managed to find a few half-hours here and there after work to clean wood, scrape glue, etc., so today I was ready and pretty psyched just to glue the pieces of the back of the first chair together. Here they are, all ready to go:
I got out my Titebond glue and squirted some into a little plastic dish. Opened up the packet of small brushes I’d bought for brushing the glue on. I was nervous about how fast it would dry and decided to do all the grooves of the bottom piece, and then the bottom tab of each slat — stick all those together and then do the top, and hope it would fit easily and snugly, each and every slat neatly into the proper groove.
I have to admit that I felt pretty good applying the glue. So easy. Smooth. Just nice. Visions of everything fitting right, becoming solid right before my eyes. I put all the glue-coated slats into the glue-coated grooves of the bottom piece. Nice. But on taking my next breath, I felt this foreboding tremor as I inhaled. The top wasn’t going to go on right, I just knew it. And the glue. The glue was going to start drying so fast! How to get that right?
And suddenly there were all these dumb things in my head, because earlier this week I had the stupid, stupid, stupid idea of inviting Ex to a thing. Because I had an extra ticket, and it was for something I knew he’d like, something we’d once upon a time have surely done together, and why can’t we be friends now? I started to invite him, in an email, to type the words, “this might sound crazy, but do you want to come with me…?”
And then I thought, Jesus Christ, Manning, why would you ever set yourself up like that? And I deleted that shit, and went on with my day.
But because I’m a stupid fucking idiot, later that day when I was emailing him about some logistical parenting thing, my fingers typed a post script explaining what I’d almost done. Like some lame ass olive branch or what? What was I even thinking?
He responded to the logistics, and not the P.S.
Which was fine. Cool. Understood. Better, really, than anything he could have said, right?
The end. Phew!
But then he sent “response part 2.” And asked me why I would ever think he’d ever ever ever want to be my friend again, when I could turn on him at any second, when I had / when I could / when I would surely —–
——–so much history, so much history that each of us have formed into our own loosely-based-on-reality narratives to help us make sense of it all.
Shit, the glue!
Have I mentioned that we were married for 20 years?
Technically 22.
Glue.
I don’t think I can trust it.
Or hell, can’t trust myself to use it properly.
I tried fitting the top piece of the chair back on top of the slats. One or two would go partway in, but getting all five in at once wasn’t happening, and I started to panic that the glue was drying, and that I was failing before I’d really even begun.
A.
A.
That guy, new guy.
God, I love him.
I was cursing myself for ever starting anything when I’m no good at anything but beginnings. When I never quite know what the fuck I’m doing. When I get all giddy excited and my heart goes all cuckoo and I just leap——
The pieces wouldn’t fit. The glue was drying.
I stopped struggling with the slats for half a second, paused and just looked at the damn thing to assess it. And then my eyes opened wide, jaw dropped—
I. Did. Not!
Did I?
Had I?
I had. I’d stuck two of the goddamn slats in the wrong way, with the front — the bit that’s supposed to go against the sitter’s back — facing out. Which put them about 1/8″ off the other slats, because the tab-thingies that fit in the grooves are offset that much. Fucktard!
But calm down, I told myself, just pull them out and stick them back in the right way.
Only guess what, you guys? Titebond III is no fucking joke. Those slats were bonding to the base. Shit. Shit shit shit. I sat on the deck and put my feet on the bottom piece and grabbed one of the wrong-way slats with two hands and pulled with all my might.
One slat came out without too much of a struggle, but the second was more stubborn. I was pissed at myself and also at the universe. Vowing to myself as if it were some kind of righteous vengeance — I’m going to finish this goddamn project even if the chairs end up looking like boxy old Frankenstein’s monsters.
Flump! Finally the second piece came out, and I flumped backward onto the deck, whacked my elbow on it. Jesus. I wasn’t sure if the glue was still tacky enough to get a good hold, but I took a chance and rammed the two pieces back in – the right way this time.
Come on, come on, come on, I said to the top piece, willing it to fit nicely now. I did manage to get all five slats into their grooves — but not supremely well, not snugly. Fuck all.
I got my mallet out. Went a little cuckoo, maybe, trying to whack everything tightly together. Thinking don’t split the fucking wood but still banging away.
Of course it wasn’t going to fit together just right — wham!
Of COURSE IT WASN’T — wham!
Who the fuck did I think I was — wham!
Bob Fuckin’ Villa or something? — wham!
Yeah, I’m a real mess, you guys. It’s the goddamn hormones maybe (but that’s another story), and/or the ghost of Joe (another ‘nother story). Ex and/or A and/or whatever crazy, striving, hungry mess of unrequited whatever that’s in my blood.
But every day’s a new day, right? A new day and ultimately good. And check it out: as imperfect as it is, I got me the back of Chair #1, re-glued and clamped and setting up. It may not be much, but it’s something.